- August 23rd, 2013
I am always aware of the fact that, despite the ups and downs, I'm very lucky and should concentrate on the good stuff. Today, chatting with a friend about one of her friends has reinforced that feeling.
This lady is married to a guy who comes from a rich family to begin with, so they wouldn't need anything in terms of money. They also bought a house, redid it properly with high-end materials and features and sold it when the market was good. It must have fetched at least £800,000. More than I'll ever have, unless something seriously unexpected happens. However, I would not trade my life for theirs.
They have 3 children. The eldest one is about 10 and she has Down syndrom. I'm not sure what her 'degree' is, but my friend was saying that she was quite violent and had serious sleep problems. That, in itself, would give her mum tons of work... But they also have twin boys, one of whom has Asperger. Of course, there's so much help they can get from carer-relief organisations and so on, but you can imagine that 2 hrs a week don't really help that much when you've got all of that on your hand. On top of that, the father blames the various problems on his wife so he's out of the house as much as possible, and even taking work over in the US so he doesn't come home for months at a time. You just see things differently, then. She's got money but a husband who isn't there for her and two children who need a lot of attention and one who probably doesn't get enough attention.
I feel sorry for her. Looks like her husband is a real ass too.
So, yeah, it's not all fluffy kittens around here, but it's quite alright and it's worth acknowledging it from time to time. It gives me a bit of perspective.